Wrong.
If there is one thing I have learned in this life of mine, in my 46 years of always trying to make everyone around me love me, accept me and approve of me…it is that no one else can make you whole.
You are whole all on your own, whether you realize it or not.
I, most of my life have not realized this.
I am a self admitted searcher. I have always waited, longed for…the relationship that will make me everything I am not, when I am alone.
Until recently.
When I finally figured out the fact, that I am good. With just me. On my own, by myself.
I am complete already.
I have never appreciated that in myself, never given myself the credit I deserve just being me.
Being good just being me by myself. Mostly because I have never BEEN by myself. I have spent my whole life looking for someone to make me feel happy, to fill the vast space that has been void in my life, without ever realizing that the space was just me. Not giving myself the love, devotion and care that I need. That only I can give myself.
Love can be funny that way. It tricks you for a little while, it makes you settle, makes you give up things that you really know you deserve and want.
But not this time. There will be no trickery, no tomfoolery…I see it for what it really is.
I won’t be in a situation ever again where I will compromise myself, or who I want to be.
I love William for that. He is ok with my honesty. He listens when I talk and actually hears what I am saying.
I am bad for making stuff up in my head and playing through a scenario and making the outcome happen before it actually does.
I am trying to change that, I am trying to be totally honest all of the time. I want him to know how I feel, if he is ok with that, then great. If he is not then we have to work through whatever the situation ends up being. So far so good.
I am really trying to make that work in all aspects of my life.
If something isn’t going to work for me, I need to be honest with whoever is involved and tell them how I feel. Life is too short to not go with my gut.
Those are words from my bestie Nancy. She is rarely wrong, and we have been friends for going on 24 years now.
When we are older, like in about 15 years at the MOST…we are Thelma and Louising it…I mean without the driving over the cliff part of course.
And we are gonna have a Motorhome, and a Mustang…not a convertible…mind you…
We will have her Samari…it is convertible…hmmm…
Ok…so just no cliff then…
So at this point I feel William going… hey wait…what about me?
Don’t worry honey. It will be fine. We will always come home eventually :) I mean someone has to stay home and hold down the fort and watch all 7 of our kids right? You must be up for that??
We are the gypsy girls, and you will be our hometown boy. It’s just like the movies, only funnier. Cause you know us right?
Ok…hopefully William is laughing right now, even when a little piece of him is going, uh oh…they might be serious.
That is the fun part of being a girl, keeping everyone on their toes, you just never know if I really mean it or not, do you?
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The Redneck Princess 
great post donna, and it made me see a little sense, thats why you are one of my favs :)
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Awww… thank you Laura :)
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That’s always been the toughest part about me being me, too. Loving others and meeting their needs has always been easy. Loving myself and meeting mine was always the hardest part. I must be growing and improving, because I can honestly say I love and accept myself more now than I did when I was young and supposedly had more going for me. Well, either that or I just plain don’t give a shit what people think anymore. Okay…both! ;)
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The same was with happiness. I used to say: “you don’t make me happy”. Now I know that we ourselves are the only ones that can make us happy. Nobody else will.
And by the same token, just a bit more hard to learn, nobody can make you unhappy. Only if you let people upset you you will feel upset…
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I so needed to read this post today! Thank you!
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;) we all need to be reminded how spectacular we are just being us!!
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Nice post. I feel like we are always on a quest to find what it is that will make us whole, when really, it’s in our own ability to be whole. By our own authority. Thanks for the read.
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Thank you for the visit :)
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I REALLY needed to read this post this morning… this is something I’ve struggled with for some time; tricking myself into believing that I am not a complete person until I have that special someone by my side. I know deep don’t that notion is complete and utter bull-shit, but I still end up thinking that way. So I will continue working on it. Thanks Donna.. xoxo
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It is something I have fought with my whole life…I finally know now, that I am good alone OR with someone, but I don’t need someone to make me happy, only I can do that :)
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I hear that! It’s not that important to have someone else in your life, or seek out someone, who you hope will complete you. I’m sure I read something once about how if you can’t love yourself then you can’t hope for someone else to love you. Something like that. I think you have a great outlook on life and a healthy approach to love, life, happiness and friendship. I don’t think any of really have it all figured out but it seems you are at least on the right tracks!
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well I am trying :)
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Another great post!
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Thanks Cecelia :)
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Just be yourself..you can never be someone else or what someone else thinks you should be.
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